It’s what I advise a lot of parents to do: it’s just the hardest thing that you can ever do—but if you want to save their lives it’s what you’ve got to do: it’s tough love.
Being involved in peer support groups—with people who knew exactly what it was like to work in a setting with access to medications—was the key for me to be able to get solid in my recovery.
I guess the best thing I can do is lead by example. Keep changing for the better more and more every day, keep in contact with those people, and just try to lead by example, like I said, get them to make the right decisions, not because someone told them to but because they can see that there is a better way; that there is a light.
It is my personal mission to be a face, voice, and light of hope for recovery every day I am on this earth. What I have discovered from this journey of recovery is how to trust in my faith, love others, love myself, and be present in the moment.
Some of the best moments of my recovery have been raising my son and working alongside someone who has been struggling with addiction find clarity and peace and a pathway that works for them.
We have a lot of guys in this program, past and present, who have spent their whole lives watching people avoid them, myself included. But it’s all changed now. People want to be around us. People want to hear our stories. People want our help today. When I got to Recovery Point, I realized that for the first time in my life that there were people in this world that were just like me. That suffered from the same diseases that I suffer from, and having brothers around you that go through this process with you really makes it easy to stay.
I started out my recovery with service and carrying a message that an addict—any addict—can stop using drugs, can lose the desire to use, and find a new way to live. Today I’m really grateful for the opportunity to get to continue to carry that message into recovery homes: a light into darkness.
Just by having faith and putting my all into it and doing what is uncomfortable, I’ve been able to have a life where I can help others that are also going through the same struggles as I am and have a family, and actually love my life and be happy about it.